I am in a big FAT rut. Yes, I have totally let my health and fitness slide, and as a result, I’m stuck in the squishy ‘clothes don’t fit me’ rut. I’m annoyed at myself for getting there, annoyed that I don’t seem to have the willpower to do something about it and just generally annoyed.
I know that I have complete control over this situation and the ability to change things, but I keep putting it in the ‘too hard’ basket. That is very unlike me. Very apathetic. Very lazy.
I have every faith that I will find my drive once again, and that I will change and be happy with the changes that I make. But until then, I needed to get this off my chest.
What do you do when you’re frustrated with something in your life and can’t seem to get yourself back on track?
This follows on somewhat from my last post about men and coaching them so they understand the type of relationship you want.
This message really resonates with as I sometimes find myself questioning who I am, and wondering if I should change who I am.
As someone who struggles with self-confidence and self-worth I’ve had to remind myself that I DO NOT HAVE TO CHANGE for anyone!
I encourage everyone to remind themselves (daily) that the are worth it; they have a valuable contribution to make to this world; and that if people want to be in my life, they will step up and grab hold.
At the moment I’m reading Textbook Romance by Zoe Foster. I’m really enjoying it and finding her approach to dating, romance and relationships quite interesting.
The reason I put up this quote is that I feel that some women don’t take enough control of their love and romantic situations. Perhaps we’re afraid that if we don’t give in, do whatever it takes, seem completely agreeable, that we might loose our prospective suitor.
Instead, I’m taking Zoe’s view that we need to teach men how we want to be treated. Not in an ‘I am woman hear me road / this independent female won’t take your crap…’ BUT, we do need to set the tone for what behaviour we will/won’t tolerate (and the same goes for the guys) as it sets the tone for everything moving forward.
What do you think, should we be coaching men (or any person in our lives) how we want to be treated and make it clear the type of relationship we expect and deserve? (that said, if they don’t want to play ball, that’s fine, but don’t you think we owe it to ourselves and others to be up front?)
This could not be more true. How often do we find ourselves looking longingly at other people and what they have? It’s the good old ‘grass is always greener’ trap.
I’m guilty of it too.
I am learning that comparing myself and my life to others isn’t helping me. It is not motivating me, it’s preventing me from being grateful for all of the AMAZING things, people, experiences etc that I DO HAVE in my life.
I really dislike the fact that I focus on what I don’t have (or think that I don’t have) rather than embracing all of the good things. So I am making a conscious attempt to embrace the good, and forget about what I don’t have. Instead, I have a vision and faith that that vision will be realised.
I have started a bit of a gratitude journal, not every day, and multiple times a week. I’m taking note of things in my life that I’m grateful for, as well as taking note of the things I like about myself (whether physical or other).
Have you tried it? Give it a go, you might be surprised with what you put down on the paper. It’s nice to look back too, and see the consistent positives in your life!
I sometimes feel like I am struggling with this balance. I’m finding myself holding onto (aka, not letting go of) the small stuff and it is eating away at me.